We are both 24, young professionals who met on eHarmony, who match exceedingly well. We can talk for hours together, learning about eachother, never a dull moment.

First date was coffee + game or 2 of pool (4 hours long)
Second date was sushi, then coffee (4 hours long)
Third date: Im thinking dinner at comedy club or sporting event (suggestions?)

I want us to stop talking so much about eachother, & start building some situational experience together. I worry if we keep just 'talking' we will run out of things to talk about.

How do you handle this third date transition from talking to spending time together? What do you do to start building the foundations of a relationship?

I got out of a LONG term relationship at the beginning of this year, so Im a bit rusty. I'm just trying to be me. I think she & I are really enjoying eachothers company: I just want to make sure it stays that way. Hints, tips, suggestions needed for a romantic who doesnt want this one to get away.
This is not about trying to be physical with her. Honestly, second to last thing on my mind right now. Rushing into sex with someone has been detrimental to my previous relationships.

I agree so far with the whole "go with the flow" attitude & that talking is a good thing (nothing is better than communication). In essence, thats what I'm trying to do by introducing more 'situational' experience for us to relate to, so that we don't run out of things to talk about (not sure why I'm afraid of that...hmmm any thoughts?).

Thanks for bearing with me here folks, I just really like this woman.


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Drop your agenda and just go with the flow.

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i think the comedy club would be nice. unless you both like the same teams for the same type of sports, then try that out with a nice dinner afterwards

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Talking is actually really good thing. You learn more about each other, but it sounds like you are looking more for spending time and gaining experience in just being together.

Try to make dates more intimate, not public. Spend time together doing things that you would normally do alone. Have her come to your house and hang out. Watch movies and stuff.

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Why are you trying to make this complicated. Relax and let the relationship take its course. If it is going as well as you see everything will be fine. Also, no **** you haven't had a dull moment you just started seeing each other. Don't be in such a rush.

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The comedy club is a good idea....seeing a movie is a good idea. At this point, finding something that doesn't require talking is good because then you have something new to discuss afterward. Just be affectionate during the show and go with the flow. You could always just chill at your place and make dinner and watch a movie. Keep is laid back,

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The first 2 dates will be the informative ones, dont rush a good thing if intimacy (I know thats what you are asking about) is not present yet.
Let the two of you have a good time, dont rush into anything, you like each other, have a great time together, when it happens, it will happen.

A good thing should not be questioned.

If you are looking for more, or wanting more, it isnt going to happen if she isnt ready to go to that point yet. Furthermore, she may only like you as a friend.....so again, enjoy each moment, observe any subtle signs if she is interested in more from you....

Bottom line: dont rush it, enjoy single life again, date plenty, dont get into anything right now, make new friends, you got plenty of time.

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Take her to... the cinema this way there wont be much talking, But your still be together... But let her pick the film.

Or

Take her to a theme park this way you can.. Have fun together and where your be having fun you can learn more about each other but it wont involve alot of talking..

Good luck xx

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i like BooAnn's suggestion, i mean in these 4 hours of conversation with her, you just need to kind of make a move, but make sure she is ready. Words are the key

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You NEVER want to stop talking, believe me. I have been with my hubby for over 5 years and have known him for over 11 years and we still talk and we still haven't run out of things to say. Communication is key in any relationship so never stop talking. The experience you wish to build together will come naturally if this is meant to be, one day you will just step back and realize that the relationship has changed(in a good way). The transition will happen slowly and naturally, nothing should be forced or thought about too much, you should just realx and go with the flow. If she feels you trying to hard or forcing something that needs to happen on its own, she will begin to feel uncomfortable and that could possibly ruin this for you. Just relax and see where it goes, only time will tell. Good luck.

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It really depends on your both personalities and how they coincide with each other.

Instead of thinking of things to do, have you let her decide before?

If you are worried about running out of things to talk about, then why not go slower.

You mentioned that there's never a dull moment. See how she reacts to a dull moment.

Getting to know someone, and having someone to get to know you, is to explore all facets of situations.

You need to find out what she dislikes, and what she likes, interms of comfortability of being in all different type of situations.

You'll have you read into the situation, as well as her body language? do you if she wants to continue talking about herself, or does she want something else?

You both are spending time together, don't take that for granted.

There's nothing wrong with talking. Try to change the conversations to more personal stuff. Is she comfortable with that? Has she revealed personal stuff with you, that she wouldn't with most people?

It really depends on how much you talk to her on the phone or online between dates as well.

There are alot of variables to consider, before things can get more personal between 2 people.

Everything should be automatic. There shouldn't be a need to keep things interesting.

If you are trying too hard, then it might give the wrong expectation or impression to her. And in that case, maybe you aren't the right one for her.

Good luck on your journey!

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